Why women have affairs?
Chat about a loaded theme that no one wants to speak about, this is it. Funny thing, extramarital affairs have been going on ever since the beginning of the world. Extramarital relationships can be fraught with troubles, cause despair, and other problems. Also you should wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and sincerety issue, finances, age difference, faith background, guilt, and on and on. I expect there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this post I should classify an affair as a long term, maybe months long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other persons, discreet wives dating.
Why do men have extramarital affairs? There are as many reasons as there are seek affairs. I am sure mainly though it is only the human state, the need for love, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and loved. Here are a several reasons I have run across.
Naturally we as human beings are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasant and exciting, and sex makes us escape the world for a brief period of time. This euphoria exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Someone can switch the wish on and off, some are good at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and old, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the pursue. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another person, for some it is the longing to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the entire romance thing. These wishes and yearnings can be so strong they rise above the taboos the world has erected against extra-marital affairs. For many individuals the yearnings will defeat their worries and make them risk the fury of not only their family, but the public also. So why, what is the catalyst?
Sex Addicts, perhaps some of us are. Sex is awfully good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically driven sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not wound your spouse or anybody else? You would need to minimize the jeopardy you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is beneficial to everybody, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the largest grouping, gigantic actually. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, apart from they feel happy in the way they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Then there are the kids to look after. Your finances are so entangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to stay together besides love and sex.
Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that prevent them implementing the sex operation, at least not with their spouse. An marital affair from time to time solves the trouble while keeping the marriage uharmed.
Neglect, sorrowfully this is a regular groung I fear. One or the other, generally the guy is sexually neglecting his woman for a multitude of reasons. As a man I really appreciate you guys neglecting your girls and making them accessible to us males of romance, making them “hot wives” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just misplaced in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Maybe its romance that is missing, could be it is a lack of love, could be compassion is not here, maybe it is the intimacy, maybe neglect. Maybe we have just developed separately, our relulas concerns diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is diverce of what you want. Maybe I simply do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that feeling that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The ultimate reason people give is, they look for the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run off, for economic gain, for retribution and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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